In 1988 President Ronald Reagan declared October as National Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month. "When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses his or her partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn't a word to describe them. This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States & around the world. It is also meant to inform & provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, still birth, birth defects, SIDS & other causes."
Even though we went on to have beautiful, healthy children, losing a pregnancy stays with you forever. I think of them every year on their due date (valentines day) & also on the day we found out the last baby had passed (August 1st.) We don't dwell in the sadness but we do allow ourselves to remember.
The statistics for miscarriage are a bit unnerving to me, I had no idea that depending on age 10-35% of pregnancies end in miscarriage. My heart aches every time I learn of a friend or family member or anyone really, that experiences a miscarriage. I cannot even fathom losing a child during or after birth!
So this month, remember your friends, family members & all of the families that have experienced pregnancy or infant loss & their precious babies.